“You know, when you’re old and you’re wrinkly and you’re sitting there gumming your food and your husband looks at you and even though he doesn’t see you very well anymore, he can see in your eyes the whole world: the future, the past, everything that was good and even things that were bad, and he can still say, ‘There is my queen, and what a privilege it has been to love her.’”
Woaah, hold up… that’s waaaaaaaay in the future!
Let’s back track 100 years and first dive into how Kat and I actually met. 🙂
Hey, its Romeo!
…and before I get into that, I want to share our story that will help you “get” us better. If I could tell you the whole story in one sitting, Im sure you’ll have “ah ha” moments and relate to even the strangest parts. You see, Kat and I come from two different worlds, different upbringings, yet have shared the same goals, love and passion for the past 11 years – together and also, our entire lives.
Kat was born in Poland, while I was born across the continent, in the Philippines. We grew up in Toronto, Canada and lived a block away from each other for 5 years until we finally crossed paths. But even before then, now that I look back, we’ve always been bound, connected in some way through our experiences and journey, leading what others would say, parallel lives.
It started in the summer of 2002, a time in our lives when we had something planned, knew something better was coming at any moment, and we were just passing through time and space, living each day in the present. I had just acquired my papers to enlist to the Canadian Forces while Kat was enjoying her last summer and was soon going into University far away. Both pretty stoked about our big decisions, the unlikely happened: We met.
Now, we don’t have a crazy romantic story but we do have an interesting one that involves sandwiches. 🙂
Kat and I both worked in a mall where I was a fast food cook and she was selling trinkets. I rarely talked to my customers but once in a blue moon I’d notice someone if they did something weird or funny. Enter:
The Girl Who Bought The Same Sandwich Everyday
…at the same time of the day, sometimes twice, every single day. And that’s how Kat and I’s story began. I made her an irresistible sandwich, and…
…as she passionately explains to people nowadays,
“It was love at first bite”.
“Aww, that’s so swee… Wait, what?”, is a more fascinated reaction we get.
But I still remember…
The first conversation we ever had at the bus terminal. She was going to be a poet, a librarian, a scientist, a historian, a wanderer, and a traveler. I wanted to be a rockstar and travel the world forever. We weren’t going to lead ordinary lives.
It was definitely a time to dream, a time to build our lives with adventure and experiences.
It was a time to make something great out of ourselves.
So we spent the whole summer together, day and night like it was all a dream. By the end of it, we knew we had to wake up and go after our new found want to spend the rest of our lives together.
Our individual plans changed – I didn’t join the Forces; she lived on campus in university but we took 6 hour bus rides almost everyday to see each other. Everything happened so fast that in just a few years, we were both finishing up our degrees, we had jobs, we bought our first condo, we got married and everything else in between.
It was a teenage wedding and the old folks wished them well
You could see that Pierre did truly love the mademoiselle
And now the young monsieur and madame have rung the chapel bell
C’est la vie, say the old folk, it goes to show you never can tell
They furnished off an apartment with two rooms by themselves
The coolerator was crammed with TV dinners and ginger ale
But when Pierre found work the little money coming worked out well
C’est la vie, say the old folk, it goes to show you never can tell
They had a hi-fi phono, boy did they let it blast
Seven hundred little records, all rockin’ rhythm and jazz
But when the sun went down, the rapid tempo of the music fell
C’est la vie say the old folk, it goes to show you never can tell
Chuck Berry, You Never Can Tell
We had everything.
And made our life work. We partied like crazy. We had pets that grew to huge proportions.
We had fancy dinners almost every night.
We bought gadgets that we didn’t need. We went on luxury vacations twice a year.
We got those mortgages, those high credit lines that we could’ve lived without. We made a life for ourselves and more than we could handle.
Many years later, we found ourselves in a place where we didn’t expect to be. We found ourselves bound to “that life” – a life everyone around us was living – a life our family and friends lived and knew too well – a life we realized we no longer wanted.
You could say we were tired of it…
Doing the same thing year after year, month after month, day after day, seemed to bore us even with the most rewarding vacations, the coolest gadgets, the newest restaurants, etc. It was all good – we had everything – but it was all… empty.
We had too much of what we didn’t need and lacked what we wanted most: excitement, simplicity and time freedom.
So what did we do?
Start Dreaming Again
I still remember our morning walks just before we both disappeared into our day, we’d imagine what it would be like to live differently – to live a life of freedom, to feel unlimited. Though, at the time, not even entirely sure what we meant by “freedom”, we just imagined the feeling of being, of wanting and building a better life for us, instead of simply living. Over the next 2 years, we breezed through time and space like it was a dream, all the while churning out some of the hardest times of our life together.
What came next literally shocked us to the core. While pulling in 60+ hours a week, and Kat taking on 3 jobs and starting her own personal training business, the unexpected happened:
The stars aligned, the universe revealed a secret
… and a book fell into our laps and forever changed our life.
By the end of reading it, we quit our jobs, literally the next day.
Sold everything we owned.
And moved to a place we knew we could start over: Costa Rica.
That was in 2011.
How did we know what to do?
We didn’t. 🙂
We just learned that anything can happen, and we always “have to” see what happens, each time. How else would we know? The past few years, now as I look back, the dream-building was really to train ourselves to be open to opportunities – to be open to what the universe presents to us, in many different forms.
Where people would say “No”, we’d be the first ones to say, “Hell Yea”.
Where people would be too scared to look, we’d be the first ones, holding on to our asses and diving in with our eyes wide open.
Where people would see risk, we see an opportunity to rise up.
Where people would say, “We can’t do what you’re doing. It’s all too risky.”, we ask, “Have you tried?”.
Where people would rather play it safe, we play it BIG.
“Life is too short to be small.”
Costa Rica just sort of, happened. 🙂
There was no thinking or planning involved, but there was finger pointing, literally. We took a map, laid it out on a table, closed our eyes and pointed randomly and it landed… guess where. 🙂
We realized that day we turned our life around that, what ever we decided from then on, was our call. Our Freedom. Our Decisions. Our life.
But the story doesn’t end there. It has barely started. 🙂
I haven’t even started talking about how we got into internet marketing and creating a full time income, all online! But check back regularly as we’re putting out blog content daily.
But so far, our journey has taken us to build a life of travel and freedom, and as I write this in my living room overlooking the Pacific, thinking about what we’ve accomplished, I realize that many people, just as we were, are looking for another way of life.
Some people may know ‘how’ but many may not even know where to start, or may not even know what they want. That’s why we’ve decided to share everything with you and the online world through our blog we passionately call…
D’ Coconut Life Blog
We’ve learned and continue to learn many things in life, relationships, traveling, business, and everything else, that someone, somewhere across the world – this might be you – I don’t know, needs the same help and support we needed when we started.
Just as we figured everything out by ourselves, I’m sure you can benefit from what we’ve lived through, our experiences, trials, and successes.
With that, I want to leave you with one tip, possibly the best tip I can give you, that has without a doubt helped us tremendously in life and business:
Don’t. Ever. Give. Up.
From the beaches of Costa Rica,
“Live Life and Prosper”.
P.S. Thanks for reading! In the meantime, check out Part 2: A video that Kat just shot in the link below, on the next page!