As entrepreneurs, Kat and I always have to dream bigger to achieve our current goals how ever big, short or long term they are. And this ties in to adapting a very “unrealistic” approach to life because really, how do you see yourself living on the beaches when you barely have any money left for “extra spending”? How do you see yourself spending your time with the people you love when you’re working all the time?
Impossible to comprehend, right?
On being realistic vs unrealistic
And it’s totally about YOU and how you can do the same.
“oh I can’t do what you do…”
“I can’t leave my job and travel… what are my parents gonna say?”
(Secretly, they think we’re nuts)
And these are usually the type of reactions we get, and we’ve come to understand that most people are just too plugged in to the real world where old beliefs from parents, their parents, have been passed down to them unconsciously.
You don’t know what you don’t know right? and its not your fault – and now you know…
You have been living their existence. Not yours.
I did too.
But then, some 3 years ago, I read a book that totally changed my life and it got me thinking.
which brings me to…
The 3 Things I Learned from Living Life Unrealistically That You Might Want To Know About
“Always Test your basic assumptions.”
(first – “what you think is true isn’t necessarily true”)
This was such a mind fuck back then but at the same time, I knew where it was going and why.
It was time.
I started to think about how my beliefs came about and truth be told, most if not all, came from my past experiences, society and from family and friends.
Cereal is only for breakfast.
You can’t eat carbs after 6pm.
You can’t put your feet up, the table will break.umm what?
You can only go on a vacation once a year (and only for a week)
You can only make money with a job.
You can’t start a business. It’s too hard and you’ll never make it. You’re gonna fail, BELIEVE ME.
Ultimately, I concluded, these beliefs had nothing to do with me as I moved forward in life. They had no bearing at all and why did I even think these things? Why did I think that I would fail before?
Because old beliefs… die hard.
In 2011, when Kat and I flipped everything, it was because of a new found thirst for life – to live, breathe and finally love it. Although on the surface, it looked like we had a severe meltdown and quit our jobs, left our “good city life” for reasons others couldn’t understand, it was actually more internal.
We wanted to get away from our old selves and old beliefs that held us back from becoming the people we are today.
We wanted freedom from it all…
And how do you do that?
“Always set yourself up to win.”
(The second – “reframe everything”)
It’s not like you’d set yourself up to fail, right? But this is exactly what everyone does! unconsciously of course.
I only lost 5 pounds this week 🙁
I don’t have enough money to travel.
School’s such a drag, I don’t have enough time to do fun stuff.
I barely see my wife now because i work too much. This sandwich tastes old – it’s not good.
You see, I used to work in fast food, and believe me when I say, people complain a LOT. And funny enough, I’m ok with it. But if you’re the one complaining, you should try to understand why and know that, it’s not a big deal.
I’ve always known that people have good intentions, but we all reflect our frustrations into what we do daily, and that underlying feeling becomes something so huge when really, it doesn’t mean anything.
Ever consider that you’re probably just having a bad day because you forgot to eat breakfast? or forgot to drink coffee (i don’t know why you would…), and that really, the world isn’t conspiring against you?
Funny enough, it can usually be fixed by simply understanding why you need to set yourself up to win in EVERY situation.
dang, I’ve already lost 5 pounds and its only friday – two more days to go!
I’ve already saved $6.43 for my trip? woaah
I’ll wake up earlier for the next week so i can do my school work and i’ll have time later in the day to do fun stuff
i’m gonna start a side business, so i don’t have to work as much and i’ll get to see my wife more than now… and maybe start a family!
I’ve never tasted an old sandwich before – how interesting.
See the difference it makes?
When you do this, you start to feel light, and that “getting what you want” feeling leads to… well – getting what you want!
Would you feel closer to your goals if every road block you hit in your business you said, “I can’t do this anymore – why can’t it just work?”
In a way, I’m telling you to empower yourself because really, becoming free is never given to you.
You take it.
Always set yourself up to win in every situation, every minute of the day.
And when you do this, you’ll feel like you can do anything.
Which brings me to the last…
“always Do Epic Shit”
**As a disclaimer, let me remind you that I’m different. Kat and I are very different and we don’t do normal pooh stuff because these don’t work for us.**
“What you fear doing most, is what you most need to do”
– Tim Ferriss
Think about that for a second.
You know I’m not kidding when I say your comfort zone is what has been stopping you from being, doing and having everything you want in life.
I didn’t start focusing on losing weight until I was 20, although I’d gotten so big that none of my shirts would fit. Interestingly enough, I KNEW I needed to watch my food intake for health reasons but because I was already a power lifter lifting twice my bodyweight, I was comfortable there, and didn’t want to do the extra work… I justified, well why should I have to, I’m already working out…
(Didn’t help that I was a stubborn as well – still am)
Are you avoiding something you most need to do?
If you are a person who wants something bad…
maybe you want that career change…
maybe you want to go after that dream to write a book, write a play, eat a weird fruit…
or maybe to simply quit your job…
Then here’s my take:
“Your ability to step out of your comfort zone determines the person you are and will be.”
If you’re a closed-up, never open to possibilities person, always afraid to try new things, and say more “no-s” than “yes-es” then that’s exactly who you are and will ever be.
If you’re a person who’s open to possibilities, always testing your basic assumptions, setting yourself up to win, and doing everything to live out your life, then.. this is EXACTLY who you are… free.
I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do. I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.
– Robert A. Heinlein
Do something crazy – today.
Live out your life and never settle for anything less.
As someone who’s traveled for the past 3 years, I can tell you that, there is so much more to this world that anyone could ever blog about, take pictures of…
And I know, Kat and I’s journey has only begun and because of what I’ve shared with you, these 3 Things I Learned from Living Life Unrealistically…
Our Life has completely Changed.
And I know, you feel a change coming on too.
So I leave you with this quote:
“Life is short, Break the Rules. Forgive quickly, Kiss SLOWLY. Love truly. Laugh uncontrollably and never regret anything that makes you smile.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Romeo, 1/2 of the Epic Duo Team
“Jump for it…”
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